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Saturday, 30 July 2016

How to boost your daughter's confidence and self esteem

Yesterday we enjoyed a fabulous day out at Walltown in Northumberland National Park as part of their National Parks Week celebrations. Northumberland National Park is award winning and the area is truly amazing.  I'll be posting more about the area and what there is to do for families over on North East Family Fun soon. 

How to boost your daughter's confidence and self esteem

What I wanted to talk about today though was Heidi. In a world where women still earn £300,000 less than men over their working lives in the UK ( that's a huge 24% ), where women only make up 17 % of the FTSE 100 board of directors and 46% of Global News reinforces gender stereotypes, I just want more for Heidi. I want the absolute best for her. I will come out and say it, even more so than my boys. Yes I want the best for Harry and Jack too but they have already been given a hand in life because they were born with a Y chromosome. I know they'll be fine. I feel that Heidi on the other hand has been born with an immediate disadvantage because she is a girl and it's up to us as parents to change this.  The main way we can achieve this I think, is to think about how we talk to our daughters & how we go about building them up to make sure they are confident as f*** to take on any challenge they want to.

How to boost your daughter's confidence and self esteem

I don't particularly have a high flying career and I don't think that equals happiness but I do want Heidi to have the same choices as I did and a whole lot more. If Heidi CHOOSES to be a stay at home mum, that's fine, I just want her to have that choice. At school, I studied Physics at A Level and had dreams of becoming a doctor. I remember there was only one other girl in my class and about 20 boys. I REALLY hope by the time that Heidi reaches 16 years of age, this has balanced out a little and more girls are seriously considering careers and courses that are currently dominated by males.

How to boost your daughter's confidence and self esteem

Back to Northumberland National Park. Heidi is a bit of a girly girl and loves wearing make up & dressing up. I'm cool with this as she enjoys it and the last time I checked, dressing up doesn't affect a girl's brain. Heidi also has a determined and fierce side to her and will do anything she sets her mind to. She has a real athletic streak and loves the challenge of overcoming an obstacle.

How to boost your daughter's confidence and self esteem

So off she went and climbed the climbing wall that had been set up in Walltown Craggs and was being operated by Kirkley Hall. Where lots of others (some a lot older than Heidi) had failed, Heidi succeeded and we couldn't have been more proud. It's fair to say she wowed the crowds around her and the instructors said she was even better than a lot of their climbing students.

How to boost your daughter's confidence and self esteem

Heidi was proud as punch and afterwards told me that she knew she couldn't look down as she would get scared so she just kept looking up towards the finish line and pushing up towards it and believing she would get there. She said she pushed with her legs and then trusted that her hands would find something to hold onto and it worked. I nearly cried when Heidi was telling me this. At just 7 years old I LOVE her confidence and determination and I will do anything I can to make sure it's here to stay.

Onto archery........

How to boost your daughter's confidence and self esteem

We also tried a spot of archery at Walltown. Steve rolls his eyes when I say this but I constantly tell Heidi that anything a boy can do, she can do just as well and sometimes better because she is strong, focused and determined. I tell her over and over again that she can do anything she sets her mind to. I personally think that building our girls up like this really does help with their confidence, self esteem and helps them believe they can take on the world. When I tuck Heidi in bed at night I remind her that she can do anything she dreams of and could fly to the moon one day if that's her dream.

How to boost your daughter's confidence and self esteem

With a little bit of practice and encouragement, Heidi yet again proved what a determined young lady she is and she scored a bulls eye with her bow and arrow.

How to boost your daughter's confidence and self esteem

This week's event filled Heidi with confidence and did wonders to boost her self-esteem and I will definitely be looking for similar events in the future. She was bouncing and jumping around the park all evening pretending she was Spiderman which made me smile - I love her choice of role model - a self-assured man who uses his skills to take on the world and the bad guys :-)

How to boost your daughter's confidence and self esteem

Thanks to Northumberland National Park for reminding me that our daughters can do ANYTHING they set their mind to. I couldn't be prouder of Heidi than I am right now.
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14 comments

  1. I just LOVE this! Even as one of the much older ones who failed lol! Honestly I was one of the crowd who was wowed by Heidi. She did amazingly and should be so proud! You are so right too, I look at Arlo and Lena and think why should one get paid less, have less opportunity and have a much harder life because of their sex. The prediction for equal pay is when Lena is in her 70s, it's just not on. Heidi just seems wonderful, keep up the good work!

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  2. A fab post, Heidi and Emily sound so similar. Beautiful girl with a spot on mummy x x

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  3. It is awful that there is still a gender divide in this day and age. I worked for years as the only/one of only a handful of women in tech companies, and it opens your eyes to the way women are still treated and perceived. Heidi rocks though, and I'm hoping my little one is just as feisty x

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  4. Love this, we talk all thwtimeanout how boys and girls can do everything they set their mind too there's no difference between them.

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  5. I think it's good to encourage women that they can do anything but despite all the stats I don't feel like I have a disadvantage x

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  6. I love this! It annoys me that there's still a pay difference between males and females, it's not right. In my field it seems to be dominantley male too with 7 male designers at work and 2 female, it doesn't bother me but I am aware of it.

    Heidi looked like she was bursting with pride after her climb. I think it's great that you keep telling her she can do anything she wants x

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  7. Aw this is such a lovely and important post! Love the pics too.

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  8. This is a fantastic post. We need to remind our children they can be anything they want to be.

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  9. Wow this looks like a brilliant day - both my kids (boy and girl) would love it.

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  10. Love love love this! She looks so happy to be doing all of those activities! x

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  11. What a great post, I need to boost my eldest daughter's confidence as much so will take note. Looks like your daughter had a lovely time ;-)

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  12. You are such a supportive mother for honing your daughter's self esteem at a young age. Some kids grow up not having any and they go into the real world feeling incompetent. It's such a breath of fresh air knowing there are moms out there like you! ❤

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  13. You're doing such a great job! It's so important to support your daughter and help her boost her self esteem and be confident.

    As girls we often get to hear we're too thick, too skinny, too girly, too boyish, too loud, too silent, too smart, not smart enough, etc. It can make you pretty insecure about yourself. I think it's important to get enough positive feedback and 'ego boosters' as well to even it all out.

    Sarah | lavenderlife.co

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  14. I love this post. This is something that is so important to me not only as a woman and a big sister but as a science teacher I would love to see more girls kicking butt in STEM subjects and in life!

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